The Three Magical Words!

I love you! Quite a sentence han?

As a high school kid, we intend to do everything possible for the girl we supposedly love to hear those three magical words. When after all the efforts she finally says, we feel like standing on the deck of The Titanic shouting “I‘m the king of the world”. We feel like ‘I can do anything since I have accomplished it’. 

As we grow up and pass through constant sinking of the Titanic, we come to grasp the real weight that the three magical word carries. The worst comes when you are on the verge of success but hasn’t achieved it yet. By on the verge of success I mean that you have accomplished few things in life and has shown your potential but have not yet achieved stability in life. There comes a phase in life where you want to have a girlfriend but surely not want to give commitment. That’s when the three magical words haunt you. They haunt you because those three words comes with commitment and you know the consequence of sinking the Titanic. 

In our societal set up first there is ‘I love you’ and then if everything works in a right way then there is sex and the ‘I like you’ gets lost in either going as solo lover or during “we are friends” phase, unlike the west where first there is I like you then sex or vice versa and then if everything works out the I love you comes out. So in this kind of set up there is very little window to escape from the commitment while having a relationship. If you can manage it, you are the dude or your girlfriend is very cool. The thing with casual relations is that they can’t be found easily. Even if you find one you will fall into the pit which you believe as heaven but your unstable life will make it a hell no matter how hard your girlfriend tries to make it beautiful or as you the matter of fact try to work it out. The main problem becomes the age. The guy has not achieved the age of marriage. He has his dream of going to Ibiza or at least Goa but the girl is near to the marriage one. Parent’s pressure becomes more than atmospheric pressure. The pressure transfers onto the guy and voila he gets scared out of life looking at his marriage. 

The thing is that love is such a beautiful feeling that if get your heartbroken after living that feeling, you get scared of repeating it. But love actually makes the mind clear as crystal. If the commitment scares you, you are definitely not in love because love don’t scare you, it gives you strength, and it gives inspiration to lead a better life by taking the best possible decision. The decisions taken considering only happiness and nothing else. It’s a power that gives you strength to live life with confidence. The moment love scares you, you must figure out what wrong you have done. 

Stability in life comes with success and it can only be measured in happiness and what’s happiness without love and if you do not want to be successful then why are you working so hard in life. So bottom line if you are scared you are not in love, if you are not have a happy life.

- Ajit Kumar Lal

Five Things Women Would Love To Hear

Words! Well, when it about a man, he believes that action is more important than words, but if we talk about a woman, then it’s not only about just action but words too. A simple word can make them to love and admire you more and more and also can make them to suck your blood. So there’s one thing which we, men, need to learn about women is what to say to make them happy. And if it comes to compliment then women are someone who wants more and more and if you’ll give them that then they’ll surely give you plenty back in return.

You can make a woman to please you simply by letting her realize that how much she already does. Here are five things which women love to hear or which men would love to sound out.

I can’t believe how you look so beautiful!

If you’re just dating someone, then just by telling her that how much she’s attractive for you, can work any time, but if it’s about a relationship then women just want to know that even after spending few years with her, you still find her the most beautiful girl (whether she is or not). Many times it occurs that the appeal which you felt in her before sticking into a kinship is now lacking somewhere after when you realize that there are a lot more young women out there who are prettier than your girlfriend. But let me tell you one thing a woman will stop looking prettier and beautiful for you if you’ll stop complimenting her about her beauty. The more you’ll compliment, the more she’ll be conscious about her body as she wants her man never to stop complimenting her.

Many of us think that girls don’t like words like “SEXY” and “HOT” and resist using them for any girl. But here is the thing! Believe me, it doesn’t matter if some girls show that they don’t like these sort of words because from inside she feels like taking flight in the sky after hearing that how many sexy and hot she is.

You’re really smart!

Indigestible for women, but it’s a bitter truth that the majority of women comes with beauty without brain or even no beauty no brain. So if you’ve that girl from the minority who don’t still have that beauty, but brain also then acknowledge her intelligence whether she is or not. It’ll make her realize that her man not only know her figure but brain as well. A woman loves a man who is capable of thinking above waistline or a man who can not only think above and below her stomach but also her smartness. It’s kind of a respect from her man.

I want to spend my life with you!

The master line which a guy mostly uses while proposing a girl, but be prepared about the consequences after saying this. Maybe it’s just a line to use, but it’s more than just words to women. Yea! But never forget one thing that risks come with heaps of rewards. Say lines like this when you really mean it because maybe you’re saying this merely to woo her, but women always bring these matters to their essence. A woman loves to hear how much you’re committed towards her and the relationship. I would allege that other phrases like “I am incomplete without you” and “you make me feel so happy” can lick in the similar room but less commitment.

How was the day?

Asking her about the day always make a girl feel about your eagerness and interest to understand her. For a guy, a day means just work and sleep, but for a girl, it’s all about the things which are adventurous for her like; gossiping, fight with her sister or brother, her best friend’s affair and many more. Well but be prepared because this line gives her the license to talk for a long time and maybe those things which can make you bore till death. So before saying this line, better just go for pranayama or something which can help you to stand for a long while to listen to her long but endless bedtime stories. You may have to listen more than you want to.

I love you!

The 3 little power pack words! I don’t think I have to explain that why women love to hear this phrase, but I would like to say only one thing that brother, don’t feel shy or hesitate to say this line. These words are not meant to be used only at the time of proposing a girl, so it’s good to say it every now and then. I called them power words because it perpetually helps you to relight the spark in your relationship. You won’t regret once you’ll see her reaction on it.

So now this is women’s day and it’s time to go out and make your girl feel that how much she’s special to you and your life. But before all that, never forget to respect women’s body and soul as it’s the most precious thing in this universe.


- Kanishta Anshul