Can A Girl And A Boy Be Best Friends Too?

“A boy and a girl can never be just friends”, everybody has heard this dialogue but obviously in a much dramatic effect and with powerful delivery stance. In my entire course of existence I have been dealing with this phrase and denying it. Why? Because my best friend is a girl. I have known her since the time I remember most of the things in my life, so it feels like knowing her since the existence of this planet. Most of my other friends find it extremely weird that I have a female as my best friend. They often say that we hide that we are a couple and if not then one of us is secretly in love with the other. Of     course I love her but like a friend with an addition of best to it.

I would have to be more apathetic to know what it’s like to have a boy as a best friend for a girl but I am a bit lethargic to do that. I surely do know the fun and adventures of having a girl as your best friend. Whenever I think of this, five things pops into my mind at first and then I go into a torrent of thoughts upon what it should be and what it should have been. Till the childhood it remains sweet and heartening but in adulthood it becomes questioning along with sweet and heartening.

The first one; A girl is your best friend, seriously?

If a girl is your best friend, you must have had this reaction from others. They never say that but as soon as you reveal it, it takes them a while to get over it. Sometimes at some instances even the mind asks the same but the understanding overcomes the thought.

The second; Shyness

Doesn't matter how much bold you think of yourself, whenever your best friend asks you something related to sex, you would take at least ten minutes and ten different ways to explain it. But the thing is if you cannot talk about it then the girl or even that boy is not your best friend because best friends can ask any question and can answer any question.

The third; Management

Yeah if you want to be a decision maker, have a girl as your best friend and then make a girlfriend. You will learn how to manage work and home and will also be able to learn time management according to people. I guess this also increases crisis management. Well, it is common for a girl friend to hate your female best friend, it’s up to you to decide who the work is and who is home. If you upset any of the two, prepare yourself for crisis management. In my personal experience I have learned the management the most after obviously I screwed up.

The fourth; Suspicion

Most of your friends and family members would think that, you two have become a couple unless you clearly state that your best friend is not that girl, it is someone else. This also makes suspicion about you getting confused in life and not accepting things that is in front of you. If you are single then no matter how much you deny it, they would treat you as a couple. Especially when you are found talking to your best friend at mid night.

The fifth; Future

This remains a matter of concern. As you grow up you would be very uncertain of the future of relation. What is going to happen once we get settled? What if she gets married before me? What if we actually become a couple but no we denied all the time? The answer to these question depends on the level of understanding that you have with her and how you evolve through it.

In my personal experience the understanding is so much that even after living in two different cities for long time we are best friends and despite of her getting into a relationship the equation has not changed. That’s the level of understanding should exist. The third angle of love or for the matter of fact anything should never ruin the friendship, if it does then you need to work on your relation with your best friend. All I know is that if you have a female best friend, you are the luckiest guy in this world.

- Ajit Kumar Lal

Relationship Status!

What’s your relationship status? A very common question on social networking sites (special thanks to Zuckerberg Saab). Whenever we check anyone’s profile, the first thing where our eyes roll up is whether the one is single or mingle. If single then friend request send karna to banta hai boss and if mingled then ‘sarging’ will follow up for next.

Sometimes it seems to be very strange that the one who is single wants to mingle and the one who is mingle again wants to be single and then again mingle.

The most famous and popular status is ‘SINGLE’. Generally, the people who fall under this clan are practical (good to give yourself the tranquility as I am one of them) and ‘happy go lucky’ type of species. They become the center of attraction if they have a good profile. Mostly these types of species don’t really want to stay single but being a victim of circumstances; helpless. They’re found to be dating and flirting but not more than that. Singles generally don’t have a fear of getting cheated, being caught with other, limits or any compact system. And that’s why they seem to be like a khulla saandh. These people generally say that ‘ I am happy being a single’ but actually its different from within. They know from inside that ‘yaar kab tak sukha pada rhega’. The people who were dumped by someone (fortunately or unfortunately) also fall under this clan. Sometimes people with the tag of THARKY also live with this status too. In a simple way, single lives with the quote: jo mujhe chahiye use main nahin chahiye, aur jisko main chahiye wo bhala kisko chahiye.

Undoubtedly lucky and measurably impecunious status is ‘IN A RELATIONSHIP/MINGLE’. Lucky because they have their best friend as their life mate (for a time being, temporarily). You’ll not find them easily online on social networking sites and that’s why generally they get a medium level of attention there. This type of species is generally found with their pair in dating spots (boring part: with the same one). They believe in eating the same daal everyday and when they feels to eat something new like biryani then they jump into the same daal again. Now, impecunious because these types of clan lives a compact life with boring daal everyday. They can’t hook around as nazarey bhatak gai to samjho gardan latak gai. But there are few ones of this clan who love the way of being treated as special and compaction due to which they remains with this status for their lifetime.

The most dangerous one: ‘MARRIED’. Simple the status means: ‘Better just back off’. These types of people get very low attention as trying on them is useless. Trying on them is like helping a prisoner to escape from jail who is loving that place a lot that he/she wants to stay there for forever.

The most complicated one: ‘IT’S COMPLICATED’. The people with this kind of status are mostly ‘breakup’ lovers. If they’re together, they feel like hooking someone else. When they do break up, they feel like Romeo-Juliet. These kind of people loves the chemistry subject so much that they also do chemical reactions in their relationship and the result of which: switching off ‘in a relationship’ to ‘its complicated’. They always try to search a substitute to stay constant due to which instead of becoming a substitute, they act as a catalyst to fasten up the chemical reaction of their relationship. So in a simple way, they just follow: break up, together again, break up again, together again...and so on.

Lastly, the ‘not so cool’ (what I think!): ‘IN AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP’. The people under this status gets the most attention though the status is less demanding. But you’ll find them very rare but once you get them-just enjoy dating and nothing more than that. The people with this status just want to convey: I’m not single but though you can take your chance. These people are ‘date freak’. Even after having a BF/GF, they are not bound to one person. They generally come with a mutual understanding that ‘you are my casual BF/GF, and I’ll be seeing others too’. They don’t feel the necessary dedication to their relationship. The status is less demanding due to its order and way of presenting someone’s ‘charitra’ but mostly acquire by girls in the count. They believe in: I’ll go outside and eat biryani, burger, sandwich even dosa but end of the day will have ghar ki daal at dinner also.

- Kanishta Anshul