“A boy and a girl can never be just friends”, everybody has heard this dialogue but obviously in a much dramatic effect and with powerful delivery stance. In my entire course of existence I have been dealing with this phrase and denying it. Why? Because my best friend is a girl. I have known her since the time I remember most of the things in my life, so it feels like knowing her since the existence of this planet. Most of my other friends find it extremely weird that I have a female as my best friend. They often say that we hide that we are a couple and if not then one of us is secretly in love with the other. Of course I love her but like a friend with an addition of best to it.
I would have to be more apathetic to know what it’s like to have a boy as a best friend for a girl but I am a bit lethargic to do that. I surely do know the fun and adventures of having a girl as your best friend. Whenever I think of this, five things pops into my mind at first and then I go into a torrent of thoughts upon what it should be and what it should have been. Till the childhood it remains sweet and heartening but in adulthood it becomes questioning along with sweet and heartening.
The first one; A girl is your best friend, seriously?
If a girl is your best friend, you must have had this reaction from others. They never say that but as soon as you reveal it, it takes them a while to get over it. Sometimes at some instances even the mind asks the same but the understanding overcomes the thought.
The second; Shyness
Doesn't matter how much bold you think of yourself, whenever your best friend asks you something related to sex, you would take at least ten minutes and ten different ways to explain it. But the thing is if you cannot talk about it then the girl or even that boy is not your best friend because best friends can ask any question and can answer any question.
The third; Management
Yeah if you want to be a decision maker, have a girl as your best friend and then make a girlfriend. You will learn how to manage work and home and will also be able to learn time management according to people. I guess this also increases crisis management. Well, it is common for a girl friend to hate your female best friend, it’s up to you to decide who the work is and who is home. If you upset any of the two, prepare yourself for crisis management. In my personal experience I have learned the management the most after obviously I screwed up.
The fourth; Suspicion
Most of your friends and family members would think that, you two have become a couple unless you clearly state that your best friend is not that girl, it is someone else. This also makes suspicion about you getting confused in life and not accepting things that is in front of you. If you are single then no matter how much you deny it, they would treat you as a couple. Especially when you are found talking to your best friend at mid night.
The fifth; Future
This remains a matter of concern. As you grow up you would be very uncertain of the future of relation. What is going to happen once we get settled? What if she gets married before me? What if we actually become a couple but no we denied all the time? The answer to these question depends on the level of understanding that you have with her and how you evolve through it.
In my personal experience the understanding is so much that even after living in two different cities for long time we are best friends and despite of her getting into a relationship the equation has not changed. That’s the level of understanding should exist. The third angle of love or for the matter of fact anything should never ruin the friendship, if it does then you need to work on your relation with your best friend. All I know is that if you have a female best friend, you are the luckiest guy in this world.
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