I love you! Quite a sentence han?
As a high school kid, we intend to do everything possible for the girl we supposedly love to hear those three magical words. When after all the efforts she finally says, we feel like standing on the deck of The Titanic shouting “I‘m the king of the world”. We feel like ‘I can do anything since I have accomplished it’.
As we grow up and pass through constant sinking of the Titanic, we come to grasp the real weight that the three magical word carries. The worst comes when you are on the verge of success but hasn’t achieved it yet. By on the verge of success I mean that you have accomplished few things in life and has shown your potential but have not yet achieved stability in life. There comes a phase in life where you want to have a girlfriend but surely not want to give commitment. That’s when the three magical words haunt you. They haunt you because those three words comes with commitment and you know the consequence of sinking the Titanic.
In our societal set up first there is ‘I love you’ and then if everything works in a right way then there is sex and the ‘I like you’ gets lost in either going as solo lover or during “we are friends” phase, unlike the west where first there is I like you then sex or vice versa and then if everything works out the I love you comes out. So in this kind of set up there is very little window to escape from the commitment while having a relationship. If you can manage it, you are the dude or your girlfriend is very cool. The thing with casual relations is that they can’t be found easily. Even if you find one you will fall into the pit which you believe as heaven but your unstable life will make it a hell no matter how hard your girlfriend tries to make it beautiful or as you the matter of fact try to work it out. The main problem becomes the age. The guy has not achieved the age of marriage. He has his dream of going to Ibiza or at least Goa but the girl is near to the marriage one. Parent’s pressure becomes more than atmospheric pressure. The pressure transfers onto the guy and voila he gets scared out of life looking at his marriage.
The thing is that love is such a beautiful feeling that if get your heartbroken after living that feeling, you get scared of repeating it. But love actually makes the mind clear as crystal. If the commitment scares you, you are definitely not in love because love don’t scare you, it gives you strength, and it gives inspiration to lead a better life by taking the best possible decision. The decisions taken considering only happiness and nothing else. It’s a power that gives you strength to live life with confidence. The moment love scares you, you must figure out what wrong you have done.
Stability in life comes with success and it can only be measured in happiness and what’s happiness without love and if you do not want to be successful then why are you working so hard in life. So bottom line if you are scared you are not in love, if you are not have a happy life.
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